— Daniell Koepke (via ungirthed)
We’ve heard similar compliments from others who, for whatever reason, seem enthralled by our children’s “ambiguously ethnic” looks: just a shade “exotic,” thanks to me, but lightened – and whitened – by their father’s genes. I think it is overly simplistic to chalk up all of these comments to prejudice (or, in the case of fellow Asians, internalized racism), though for some that could be one of many factors affecting their ideas about what is attractive. I imagine most people are genuinely trying to pay our children a compliment and do not realize quite how it sounds to home in on certain features amid their multiracial background.
Still, it never fails to throw me when anyone demands to know my daughters’ precise ethnic makeup, praises them by singling out their light hair or large eyes, or asks whether such white-looking children really do belong to me. Such comments often bring back memories of my own white-by-default upbringing with my adoptive parents and the many unwanted conversations we were drawn into as a multiracial family in a very white town.
As a child, I used to desperately wish for paler skin, lighter hair and rounder eyes; I would have gladly undergone any kind of reinvention available to be able to pass for white and stop hearing the ethnic slurs on the playground. It is so painful to imagine my daughters ever wishing away their Korean heritage as I once did. I don’t want them to believe it is their white half that makes them attractive or that they owe anyone an answer to the question “What are you, exactly?” And I hate that they will always have to grapple with such comments from people who don’t know any better."
also wondering what percentage of minimum wage workers are women of color.
According to this article, 62.7% of all minimum wage workers are women. Of those, 15.9% are Black, 18.8% are Latina, and 3% are Asian (with 1.2% as “other”).
I love him. Does anyone know this guy’s name? I’ve only seen him around on tumblr without any sources, and it would be awesome to see more of his stuff.
Seconding the desire to know!
The glorious David So! He also does music besides his comedy, you can find both on Youtube :)
I thought this might feel relevant to many of my followers…
You have to pay your own electric bill. You have to be kind. You have to give it all you got. You have to find people who love you truly and love them back with the same truth.
But that’s all."
Slowly coming around..