Do you ever have that moment when a kid is looking at you and you realize that they’re looking at you as a grown up? Then its like no child im a children too, dont. Im sorry my outward appearance confuses you.
— Sally Coulter (via tv-in-black-n-white)
im a bad person who thinks bad thoughts like ‘ew what is that girl wearing’ and then remember that im supposed to be positive about all things and then think ‘no she can wear what she wants, fuck what other people say damn girl u look fabulous’ and im just a teeny bit hypocritical tbh
I was always taught by my mother, That the first thought that goes through your mind is what you have been conditioned to think. What you think next defines who you are.
This is a map of Asia. North Americans, you may notice this map is not solely comprised of Japan, Korea, China and Thailand. People in the UK, you may notice India is not a continent. That is, if those of you who generalize entire continents can even pinpoint India on a map.
Indians are Asian, gasp! And not all brown skinned people are Indian, also, gasp! There are an alarming amount of people, of all ages, from all backgrounds, who seem to be unable to process this.
I’m ethnically Asian. Since Asia is an extremely large continent, I could be from any number of countries. I am neither from India, China, Korea, Japan or Pakistan, yet not so surprisingly, I am still Asian.
Yes, there are commonalities across regions, through the conflation of cultures, colonialism, globalization, transnationalism and movement of diasporas. Sometimes these are all the same thing. Rickshaws, rice and curry can be found across the continent.
But let’s not overgeneralize. You can also find Buddhists, Catholics, Muslims and Hindus across Asia. Cantonese Speaking Chinese Muslims! English Speaking Indian Jews!
No, we are not all the same. Orientalism? (Please look up Edward Said for basic concepts) No thank you.
So let’s not use umbrella terms, regarding Asians as a monolith while simultaneously denying the regional identity of millions of people- and how about we also not engage in xenophobia?
Are you someone that thinks this way? Shame on you! You should perhaps invest in buying a map, and take a look at what countries are you know, where.
Geography, people. It’s important.
This pops up on my dash every so often. I reblog it again, not just because I wrote it, but because nothing has changed since I first posted this.
Can we just say Northeast Asian for “Eastern Asia” though? For me that’s what I identify as and secondly, it feels strange to have a Southeast Asia when there is no Northeast Asia and it feels like we’re putting the Northeastern countries as the center of Eastern Asia.
I’m on the late end of my mid-twenties and it’s really hard not to feel like I’ve flunked life. I see people my age or much younger getting married and starting families, and it’s like there’s a little voice whispering in my ear “failure!”
Here’s the thing though — I’m not a failure. I think that I grew up to be a very kind, considerate human being. I’m confident in my appearance and my intellect. I’m responsible, a hard worker, and dedicated to my family, friends and animals. As a person, I don’t think I’ve done too bad. I’ve had projects that have failed, I’ve failed in the romance department, and I’ve experienced constant little failures on a day-to-day basis — but *I* am not a failure. I’m not defined by the things that have gone wrong in my life.
I am not a success story and I don’t know if I’ll ever be one — and that’s okay. Failure isn’t always a preface to success, sometimes it’s part of the story and continues to be part of it until the end. But just because it’s included doesn’t mean it’s the main plot.
I really like this post where Kate Gabrielle of Scathingly Brilliant talks about failing. I always think about this whenever I obsess over my professional achievements or my personal finances…
Another girl being pretty does not make me ugly,
Another girl being smart does not mean I’m not smart.
Another girl being liked does not mean I am unliked.
I am perfect and incredible just the way I am, and any other girl is perfect and incredible just the way she is.
Girl competition needs to stop, and self love needs to start.